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The Allan Awards for thrilling theatre in T.O.

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We all know how utterly meaningless most award shows are. The Sound of Music was deserving of a Best Film Oscar?

Sure, and the current presidents of Iran and North Korea should have landed the Nobel Peace Prize for 2010.

My third annual Allan Awards for Strange, Wonderful and Awful Moments in Toronto-Area Theatre begins now:

The Best Musical Evening with the Lowest-cost Tickets of 2010:

The exquisitely tuneful Candide by Leonard Bernstein, presented near perfectly and with great wit by graduate students of music at the University of Toronto.

For less than $20 a seat, this uproariously cynical classic provided a feast for the eyes and ears and made over-priced, noisy, unpleasant “jukebox” shows, such as Rock of Ages and Priscilla, Queen of the Desert, melt like snow in one’s memory.

The Best Plays of 2010 Written by Canadians that Helped us Survive the G20’s mortifications:

Michael Healey’s Courageous at the Tarragon, directed by Richard Rose. When two of our country’s best actors (Tom Rooney and Patrick Gilligan, both Stratford and Shaw stalwarts) make us howl with laughter while thinking deeply about subjects such as human rights, dignity and faith, you know that our countrymen are capable of greatness.

And cowinner is Erin Shields for If We Were Birds, a modern version of the two-millennia-old myth of Ovid’s Metamorphoses.

Who dares sayeth that world-class talent stops at the 49th parallel?

Best Play Involving Non-human Actors:

Who else but world-class puppeteer Ronnie Burkett, who just honoured the Factory Theatre with an incredible production of his latest and greatest work, Billy Twinkle? An amazing talent.

Best Play by one of the Finest Playwrights from Across the Pond:

Playwright Caryl Churchill’s Cloud 9 at the Panasonic, of all places, and featuring the estimable talents of Ann-Marie MacDonald, Ben Carlson, Megan Follows and Yanna McIntosh and brilliantly directed by Alisa Palmer. Bless you for this, David Mirvish: such challenging theatre is rarely seen outside our smallest non-profits.

World-class Cutting-edge Comedy and Satire Award:

Second City is back in the game with the hilarious Something Wicked Awesome This Way Comes that hearkens back to their heyday when they ruled the comedic roost in this city. Still running, down in the shadow of the Rogers Centre and for not much more than $20 a seat.

Congratulations to all the winners!

 

The sweet hair-after

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So how did you find your way to the hair restoration field?

I was talked into it by a patient.… I trained as dermatologist, and I just happened to learn how to do hair transplanting. This person had actually gone to a dermatologist and was referred to me. He was a terrible candidate for transplanting, but he kept coming back. He kept saying, “I don’t want much hair,just give me any hair, just give me any hair.”

Finally,he came back one more time and said, ‘Look it, you’ve been a good doctor. You’ve told me I shouldn’t do this. But just let me ask you one question.Will I have more on top than I had before?’I said, yes, and he said,‘Well then just do it. I’ll work with it.’ I did it, and when I was finished, I was horrified, but the patient was thrilled.

Are there more people getting transplants now?

There are many more people having it done. I mean, when I first started, in Canada there was only a few who even knew how to do it.

There was very little demand, very little knowledge about the procedure at all. Now it is more popular, and we’re getting better and better results.

Is it expensive?

It depends on the doctor you go to. I imagine on the low end of the scale you might be able to get the operation for $5,000, and on the upper end maybe $15,000.

Can women go bald the same way as men?

No,they don’t go bald the same way. Very few women would go completely bald, but thinning of the hair in women is becoming more and more common and more and more severe over the last few decades for some reason.

I’m seeing a lot more women for treatment, and the majority of women are good candidates for transplantation.

So why do we go bald at all?

First of all there is a bad gene, the baldness gene. And contrary to popular lore, it isn’t carried through the mother’s side of the family. It is carried through either side.

Then there is a genetic predisposition to the hormone dihydro testosterone.… For some reason, the amount of dihydro increases in the area going bald — that hormone triggers the gene, and there is a progression of malepattern baldness.

Do certain shampoos and other hair products make it worse?

No not really. Shampoos would not make you go bald faster than otherwise. But it might dry hair out, get fragile and break off, but that’s a different kind of hair loss.

What about diet?

Unless you have a terrible diet, it is not affecting the rate at which you lose your hair. But if you don’t mind, a one-a-day vitamin and mineral supplement is a good idea. If the body is deprived of certain vitamins, it may accelerate the rate at which you lose your hair — specifically vitamin B6 and B12. It is easy not to have enough of those unless you eat liver or brewer’s yeast every day.

Is there anything I can do to slow the rate of baldness — Slick Willy’s Hair Tonic?

There are two medications recognized to be able to slow down or even reverse balding: one is topical called mynoxidil, or Rogaine.The other is a pill form of antiandrogen, Finasteride, which is a one a day pill.

What about hair cloning?

Everybody is working on cloning. There is probably more effort and money being spent on cloning today than maybe any other field in medicine, save perhaps trying to cure cancer.… It has all been stopped at the same place whether it is heart tissue, liver tissue or hair.

We know how to grow them: we grow tissue we want in experimental animals, but when we introduce them into humans it doesn’t work as well, and that’s across the board. I could grow your hair on a mouse, and in virtually every instance I tried it, but I couldn’t put it back into you. Some of the best minds in medicine are at work solving this problem.

So how long?

I’ve been telling everybody five to 10 years for the last five to 10 years.

It is going to happen?

Absolutely.

And are you also a client?

Actually, now I am a client. About two years ago, I started thinning quite badly at the back of my head. Actually, I don’t think I minded that much. But I kept telling people for so many years how easy it is and how they’ll feel better after and that it doesn’t hurt. Well, why keep going bald? So I got my daughter to operate on me. She works with me. It went great.

 

Homework resolutions

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As a mother and role model for two delicious kids, I think it’s important to constantly improve.So here are my New Year’s resolutions for 2011 to be a yummier mummy.

10 | Homework heaven

After hearing an educational consultant speak,I learned one of the most efficient ways of getting children to do their homework is to create a consistent schedule. I discovered my son works best close to bedtime after his shower. I’ll maintain this routine, in the hopes of reducing tension around homework.

9 | Listen to my kids

Mummy does know best, especially when she learns to listen to her kids. Whether it’s feeling full,when there’s still food on a plate, or feeling sick when there are no symptoms, I’m realizing my kids are often more intuitive than I give them credit for.

8 | Get more active

I admit it. I’m not an outdoorsy kind of gal. I’m more comfy in front my computer or book.Too often my kids are lounging when we could be running, riding or skating. I promise to be more active with my kids. It’s better for all of us.

7 | Overturn overprogramming

After reading studies that prove unscheduled downtime creates outof- the-box thinkers, I believe kids need downtime to emotionally regroup after school, have play dates and not be too tired for homework.

6 | Guilt-free “me time”

Why does a pang of guilt rip through me when girlfriends invite me out for dinner or a movie? As overworked, overly responsible parents, we NEED time away from our kids to have fun and let loose a little.

5 | Time to tidy

My children rarely tidy their room. I find it takes more energy to insist on a cleanup than doing it myself. But what am I teaching them? If they put up a fuss, they don’t have to do the work. This year, I will devote extra time and energy to encourage my kids to tidy up after themselves.

4 | Birthday party change

Enough with the presents already. Birthday parties are out of hand. Next year, I am introducing charity into my kids’ parties. They will choose which gifts to donate.

3 | Leave work at my office

My husband and I are workaholics, both umbilically attached to BlackBerrys. My hope is the two of us will pry ourselves away from work to be fully there for our kids.

2 | Stop comparing kids

Why are we constantly comparing our little treasures to the other kids on the block? Celebrate their strengths and work on their weaknesses. And love them for who they are.

1 | Pat myself on the back

Rarely do we give ourselves a pat on the back and acknowledge our successes as multi-tasking moms. This year I will cut myself some slack and pat myself on the back every time there’s a small victory!

 

Toronto’s Best Chili

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FIVE-ALARM FANTASTIC
McEwan Foods, 38 Karl Fraser Rd.

Mexico? Nope. Chili, believe it or not, came by way of 18th-century Spanish explorers who wound up in Texas looking for a cheap and hearty way to fill their bellies. So who better to find the best chili in Toronto than the chef of Cava, whose Spanish-influenced cuisine is among the city’s best? The seven-bean (we counted) veal beef chili from McEwan proves most formidable, with its tenderly cooked beans, abundant vegetables and proper attention to detail. “By far the best, and the most sensitively seasoned. There are no flaws. And I like the chick peas — makes me feel like I’m eating something healthy,” says McDonald.

Price: $10.95

Classic con carne

 
The Longest Yard 535 Mount Pleasant Rd.

“This is a good drive-your-wagon-throughthe- centre chili … closest to what most people consider chili to be,” says McDonald. A gentle heat, a touch of cumin, subtle acidity from the tomato and a smoky edge elicit the word “fetching” from McDonald’s lips.

Price: $8.25

Tangy BBQ temptation


Drake BBQ 1142 Queen St. W.

“I would love to give this first place,” says McDonald. It’s got the most exciting meat flavour of the bunch, but “it’s not chili, more like BBQ in a bowl.” Plus, there’s not enough “room” in the dish. “It’s like music. The rests are as important as the notes.” And the more you eat….

Price: $8

Sweet potato surprise


The Abbot Pub 3367 Yonge St.

“Certainly the most colourful of them all. Big chunks of vegetables — peppers, sweet potatoes and things. It’s nicely seasoned and has a good acid kick from the tomatoes,” says McDonald, who likes the light vinegar tang but finds the veggies a touch undercooked.

Price: $11

Lean mean bean


Hope Street Café 324-326 Lonsdale Rd.

“This is unusual because it’s made with lentils, which I wouldn’t expect to find in a chili, and the lentils are underdone,” says McDonald. “It is quite lean, fresh and healthy. I just wish they had cooked the lentils a little bit more.” A healthy fifth place.

Price: $8

Iran sentences Richmond Hill resident to death

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Area representatives have taken up the cause of a Richmond Hill man who was recently sentenced to death in Iran for Internet-related offences.

Saeed Malekpour was imprisoned back in 2008 when he returned to Iran to visit his dying father. The web developer is being held responsible for a pornographic website because he created and sold the photo-downloading software used to help build it, which has his name on it.

Reza Moridi, the local MPP, said he got involved when Saeed Malekpour’s wife came to him with his story. He brought the case to his colleagues at Queen’s Park as well as to his federal counterpart.

Bryon Wilfert, Richmond Hill’s MP, is currently trying to secure Malekpour’s safe return to Canada. He has now twice met with Iran’s highest representative in Canada. He has also sent a letter to the minister of foreign affairs.

Wilfert said that the silence he’s received from the federal government on the matter has been frustrating and insulting. While Malekpour is a permanent resident, he doesn’t have Canadian citizenship.

“My ultimate hope and my ultimate request has been that he [Malekpour] be returned to Canada,” he said. “As far as I’m concerned, he’s a resident of the country.”

Foreign Affairs Minister Lawrence Cannon was unavailable to comment on the case.

“We continue to call on Iran to provide fair and due process for all its citizens, including Sakineh Mohammadi Ashtiani and Saeed Malekpour, as well as the many others in Iranian prisons for their religious, political or social beliefs,” he said in an earlier statement.

It’s not yet clear how long Malekpour has to appeal the sentence.

Ministry drops emissions charges against Raywal

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Ontario’s Ministry of the Environment recently withdrew odour-related charges against Raywal Kitchens, a local cabinetmaker. Spokesperson Lindsay Davidson said the Ministry determined that it didn’t have a reasonable prospect of conviction.

The alleged offence, a breach of the province’s odour requirements,  dates back to 2008. Davidson noted that the Ministry has seen a drop in odour complaints since then.

Alena Gotz, a member of the Aileen-Willowbrook Ratepayers Association, said she would like to see new testing done and intends to follow up with the Minister of the Environment to find out why the charges were dropped. She said she continues to experience odour issues in her neighbourhood.

“We are not complaining because it’s useless,” said Gotz. “We don’t believe the Ministry is doing the job of the regulator properly.”

That’s why the Aileen-Willowbrook Ratepayers have turned to the town with an eye toward revitalizing the industrial area, she said.

Bevan May, Raywal’s CEO, said the dropped charges didn’t come as a surprise. He was confident in his company’s position throughout the process.

“It’s always good when things get laid to rest officially,” he said.

May said, although he believes Raywal is operating within its certificate of approval, they are  pursuing special technology designed to permanently address any continuing odour issues that might be attributed to the company.

Howard Shore, the councillor for Ward 2, said he was disappointed by the news.

“I think people, quite rightly, are  concerned about the air they breathe,” he said.

In terms of what York Region can do, he said he would like to see public health do random air-quality checks. He will also be chairing a town committee, to be formed early this year, dedicated to the transformation of the industrial area around John Street and Green Lane.
 

Big Ben's Little Korea

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As part of a growing network of support for refugees from North Korea, a country that’s been in the news this month as their nuclear ambitions threaten to instigate war, Alpha Korean United Church at Bloor and Huron Streets acts as ground zero for Toronto’s South Koreans and their northern countrymen trying to escape a brutal regime run by a sociopath in a track suit.

“They’ll do anything for a nuclear weapon,including make their country one of the poorest in the world,”says Reverend Hae-Bin Jung,42,the church’s minister of worship and pastoral care.“It’s our mission to help our brothers, and, for the South Korean community,our duty to do all that we can.”

The 100,000 members of Toronto’s Korean community are 99 per cent South Korean, and, though their numbers are rising on Yonge Street from Sheppard to Steeles,the majority of them still shop,eat and sing karaoke on Bloor Street between Spadina and Christie.

I’m at a service being conducted by Rev. Jung on a cold and rainy Sunday afternoon, sitting in my blue jeans and snow boots next to 50 Korean Christians in business suits,ankle length dresses and sensible shoes.

I’m not a native speaker of Korean, so most of what the reverend’s preaching is lost on me.Like decades ago at my temple, I skip out and try to find someone to flirt with. There’s a way of speaking English to someone who doesn’t speak English very well that comes very close to sounding racist, but what option do I have.

“I write story.North Korea. South Korea. Friend?”

I ask the women at Goa Hair Salon, figuring that women having their hair blown out might be inclined to gab. The basement-level beauty salon between Christie and Clinton is big and bustling, and both the hairdressers and their patrons look at me like I’m a Communist freak.

“I.Write.Story.English?”I begin again, this time to a gorgeous young woman with an enormous pair of scissors whose smile looks slightly insane. Back out into the ice storm I tread.

The P.A.T. Supermarket on Bloor is like a Korean Costco except, instead of offering samples of frozen fig pastries, they’re giving out shots of ginseng.

“Improves sexual desire and energy,” reads a promotional sign written in English, and, no fool (my wife wants children THIS YEAR),I quickly take two and purchase the bottle, taste be damned.

The grocery’s a window into Korean culture and they sell Cuckoo Electronics — a brand of rice cookers and space heaters — as well as aisles of congee, as a bandana-clad butcher slices mounds of pork.The owner is a South Korean named Edward Lee who has agreed to talk with me, but he is out sick, and when I head upstairs to the cosmetics counter I begin to wonder if maybe the hairdressers do understand English and that I just have bad breath.

“I’m looking for North Koreans,” I tell the girl behind the counter.

“I don’t speak English,”she responds. “How old are you?”I ask.

“Why you ask me personal questions?” She sneers.

“I writer,” I tell her,and she smartly says, “Bye-bye.”

I’m back out in the rain before ducking into Six Penny Variety, which has been owned by Sam Kook for 27 years.

“My father’s family is from North Korea,and we know North Koreans in the community, but I don’t have any relatives in North Korea any more,”says Kook, 60.

Kook breaks down the history of the two Koreas — the Japanese occupation, the Communist ideology that tore the country in half — and says that Koreans in Toronto are sympathetic to the plight of their northern brethren.

“We have a stupid,crazy leader in North Korea, and I hope he gets destroyed,”says Kook, adding that he cheered wildly for North Korea when they played in last year’s World Cup.

“North Koreans come to Toronto as refugees, but we’re one people.When they make it to this country, I support the church, which helps them survive.”

Obviously, if I’m going to peer down the North Korean pipeline, I’m going to have to return through the snow to Alpha Korean United,but there’s no reason I can’t go after a steaming hot bowl of pork bone soup first.

Dining options in Little Korea are legion.In addition to Han Kuk Kwan and Ichiban, there’s also Tofu Village, which serves a hot tofu broth that has people lining up out the door, even with a broken heater.However, the Korea House, at the axis of evil address of 666 Bloor St., advertises itself as the first Korean restaurant in Canada.Peeking through the window, I see the Steelers on television and Sapporo on draught. It’s as if a centripetal force leads me in.

“In school,we learn that North Korea is bad and South Korea is good, but they’re hungry in the north, very poor,”says Sung Lee, owner of the Korea House who, like Kook, has a North Korean father.

Lee wears platform shoes and a beehive haircut and seems like the ideal company for singing Bon Jovi at one of the karaoke bars across the street.

My soup is served still boiling, with pickled seaweed, cabbage, cucumber and all sorts of other stuff I won’t touch,and its got to be as spicy as the fare at Metro Cinema across the street where I watch the old pervs huddle under the porno theatre’s awning to smoke in the pouring ice storm.

“North Koreans and South Koreans are the same,” says Ms. Lee. “When North Korea played in the World Cup, all of Korea cheered.”

With a rudimentary understanding of the relationship between the Koreas, I approach the church again.

“Any North Korean in Toronto is probably a refugee, and if a soldier back home had seen them, they’d probably be dead,” says Rev. Jung, who works with Canadian missionaries to bring North Koreans safely through China into Canada.

I ask the reverend if there will ever be a day when Bloor Street gets its own Little North Korea, where North Koreans can openly sing “Living on a Prayer” after a bowl of pork bone soup. He shrugs.

“South Koreans in Toronto want to liberate North Korea.

We’ve been divided for 60 years, but for 1,000 years we were one,” he says. “Today, there aren’t many North Koreans on Bloor Street.

Someday, maybe,that might change.”

— Ben Kaplan is a features writer for the National Post

 

Rae Days are here again!

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Bob Rae has been a part of the Canadian and Toronto political landscape for decades.

And the ideas that make up his new book, Exporting Democracy, have likely been swirling around in his fact-filled head for just as long.

He might still find it hard to shake off his days as the former Premier of Ontario when he introduced the, well, let’s say much-maligned Rae Days.

But, this book is a good start. And, really, a good resume for the post for Minister of Foreign Affairs should the position become available in the near future. Ahem.

In the book, Rae asks the big questions about democracy, human rights and just how we go about influencing other countries in pursuit of this goal. But, where did it all begin?

“I think, it wasn’t just one event. There are a bunch of things happening in the world that really led me,”Rae explains.“Just looking at how difficult and challenging it is to really engage on democratic and human right issues and how necessary it is.”

Although some countries prefer to impose democratic institutions on other countries through the barrel of a gun (Not mentioning any names … America!), Rae argues for a more grassroots approach — a democracy by the people, for the people kind of vibe.

“My main conclusion is that it is not about pulling a constitution off a shelf or to sell democracy like you sell refrigerators and cars,”says Rae.“The will comes from inside a people and inside a culture.”

Whatever path is chosen, turning our backs or putting our heads in the sand is no longer possible in an ever-shrinking world where everything and everyone is connected.

“There are no longer places that are too far away or countries that are too impossible to understand,” Rae explains. “The second thing is that it has to be done with a considerable amount of humility. It is a long process, and it is not done most effectively at the end of a barrel of a gun.”

A lawyer by training, Rae is currently a member of Parliament for the riding of Toronto Centre and is the foreign affairs critic with the Liberal Party of Canada. Despite the party losing a key riding in the November byelection, Rae is looking forward to an election.

“There could well be an election in the near future, and we have to be prepared for it,” says Rae. “Whatever happens after that, depending on the result. I’m sticking with it [politics].”

 

The darling of daytime TV returns

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For 19 years, Marilyn Denis ruled the morning dial as host of CityLine, a job she took over from Dini Petty back in 1989.

But after a bunch of station swapping between CHUMand CTV in 2008, Denis left the show and set her sights on a new program with CTV. The Marilyn Denis Show premieres Jan. 10.

As we head into the new year, what are the big things on your mind?

Sleeping more. [Laughter]… I try to get to bed at 8 or 8:30 p.m. Because of the show, all my friends know they can write off any kind of dinners Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday.And I will fall asleep in my entree on Friday night, but I’m pretty good on Saturday.

How does it feel to be back on daytime TV after an extended hiatus?

It feels really good. I continued with [my radio show on] CHUM FM, and I was thinking positively. I kept working out at 10 a.m. because I wanted to be physically fit — not necessarily lighter, but physically fit — for the show.

What other talk shows — I’m thinking Oprah, Rachel Ray, Ellen — will your show be closest to?

I didn’t know there were any other talk shows! Are you kidding me? I thought this was new! It will be very different, and I’m not trying to be disrespectful, but I don’t even compare to anything else.

So no dancing in the aisles?

Well, I must say, Ellen — who I think is terrific — I am not going to start that. I don’t need to do that.None of those signature things. Every day is ever changing.

In your time off, I hear you built a new house. What area?

Rosedale. Yep. It is the smallest, newest house in Rosedale. It’s a great neighbourhood. I feel really blessed to be there. So beautiful.

Over the years, you’ve interviewed hundreds of famous people. Who is still at the top of your wish list?

Boy, it’s a long list. I really like Colin Firth.

Is that an indication of your opening day guest?

No, no. I wish. Unless they’re going to surprise me!

Cabral “Cabbie” Richards from The Score is your new sidekick. What has it been like to get to know him?

I think he is excellent. He is, as he puts it, going to put some testosterone into the show, which is needed. These superstar athletes … they fall in love with him and take him everywhere. They don’t have any fear with him. And if he gets me an interview with Terry Bradshaw.…

So that’s why you brought him on the show!

Exactly. And for Colin Firth. I’ve got people for him, too.

 

Weathering a stormy rebound relationship

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My therapist, whom I call Freud, has said to me on more than one occasion that I don’t like to be alone. But that’s just not true.

There’s nothing I like better after a long day than plopping down on my couch, catching up on Dexter and eating a bag of Oreos.

“When it comes to men,” Freud corrected himself,“you don’t like to be alone.”

This wasn’t an “Aha moment.” It was more like, “And, what’s the problem with that?” (And why am I paying you $200 for 45 minutes to tell me something I’m only too well aware of?)

Sure I haven’t been single for more than 8 months since I was 16 years old. And the eight-month stint on Lonelyville was when I separated from my daughter’s father. Now, a couple serious guys later, once in a while I think it might be good for me to be alone for a while, find out who I am and what I want.

But to be honest I’d rather have a guy in my life to go to dinner and a movie with and to handle the odd minor repair job around the house.

So, Freud, we agree to disagree. I don’t like to be alone when it comes to men, but is there really anything wrong with that? January is an ideal time to discuss rebound guys. Who hasn’t ended a relationship over the holidays?

Sure we’re supposed to make resolutions such as “I’m not going to just jump into the first relationship that comes my way.”

Not!

But it goes both ways. I’m actually seeing Rebound Guy right now. He would never say that, but I’m something of an expert in the subject. I’m the first woman he’s dated since his separation, of course I’m his bounce back babe.

But he’s mine, too. I started dating him just weeks after ending my last serious relationship. It’s actually very nice to date people like this. First of all, they haven’t dated in a long time, so they are usually on their best behavior.

This guy brings me flowers, buys me thoughtful gifts and calls and texts me all the time. The cynic in me says, “Well, of course. You’re his distraction.” But I’m OK with it.

In your 30s, it’s almost impossible to date a guy who is not on some sort of rebound. One of my girlfriends loves being a rebound girl so much she could probably suit up for the Raptors. Lord knows they need the help!

She sees herself as some sort of community worker or something. She says she shows men how to have fun. It worked out perfectly well for her for a while. She’d date someone and she’d either dump him or he dumped her, and within three days, she’d find a new man.

She just wanted to have fun ,and generally speaking, guys who are on the rebound are also just looking for fun. My friend not only spoke openly and truthfully to the guys she was with, telling them that they were just rebounds, but she actively encouraged them to date others as well.

This kind of thing can actually work out.Another friend said that she married her rebound. She fought it, but they’ve been married for six and a half years.

I think back to my exes.Two of my serious boyfriends — one in high school and one in the early days of university — both ended up marrying the women they met after dating me.

Last spring, I was fixed up with a man. I quite liked him. He had been out of his marriage for a few months and had dated other people. But I was his first serious relationship.

We were having a pretty good time, until suddenly he said, “I’m just not into this,” or something to that effect. I asked him if he was still in love with his ex, and he pretty much fessed up.

I really quite admired him for telling the truth.There’s not much a girl can do if the guy she’s dating is in love with someone else. That’s the one negative.

You might try to convince yourself that you’re over the other person, but then, it turns out, you’re not really. But if you go in knowing that you are a rebound, and your guy knows he’s your rebound, then all cards are on the table. You know what you’re getting into.

I’m not a fortune teller, but it could work out. Plus, I’m pretty good at multi-tasking. Who’s to say that I can’t be Rebound Girl and try to figure out who I am and what I really want?

He may be my rebound, but he also knows that I am looking for a serious relationship and may want to have another child. I’ve been up front.

He hasn’t run yet. So my New Year’s resolution is not to take a break from men, but to stop reading trashy magazines.

Freud will just have to deal with it. Because having a rebound man in your life is such a better distraction than reading US Weekly.

 

The sky’s the limit

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My Olympic dream began almost 20 years ago when I discovered the sport of trampoline. I had found my passion, and I immediately knew trampoline was the sport for me.

The adrenalin I got from learning a new trick and soaring through the air was addictive — I guess that explains why I am currently training to qualify for my fourth Olympic Games, which will be held in London in 2012.

At age 11, I began my training at Skyriders Trampoline Place in Richmond Hill, under the direction of my long-time coach and mentor David Ross. I had been taking gymnastics and diving lessons and tagged along with one of my teammates to a trampoline class (with the hopes of improving my diving moves). Not being an Olympic sport at that time, there weren’t as many clubs and participants as we now see today.

I was pleasantly surprised to learn that trampoline was a competitive sport with local, national and international competitions.

Competitive trampoline is an artistic yet extreme sport. A trampolinist’s main objective is to perform an extremely difficult routine while making it look beautiful and effortless.

Easier said than done — especially while jumping 20 feet in the air, performing triple and double somersaults with multiple twists. The routine must be 10 skills in length and is judged on execution, difficulty and height. The judges give the athlete a score out of 10 for execution, which is then added to the difficulty value of the routine and the flight time to form a total score.

Trampoline is a fairly new sport. The first World Championships for trampoline were held in 1960 and trampoline didn’t make its Olympic debut until the 2000 summer Olympic Games in Sydney Australia.

I was a teenager when we found out trampoline was going to be a full medal sport at the Games, and I was determined to be the first woman to represent Canada in trampoline.

But qualifying for the Olympics is not easy. There are many challenges and sometimes only one shot to qualify. Competing in the World Championships is the only chance to qualify for the Olympics. There are about 80 of the world’s best trampoline athletes competing, and you have to place in the top 16 to qualify for a spot for your country.

My years of preparation had paid off, and, at 19 years of age, I was suddenly on my way to my first Olympic Games. Again, my training served me well, and I brought home a bronze medal for Canada — my first Olympic medal!

After those Olympics, I started to look toward the 2004 games in Athens. A year before the games, I had a huge break through at the 2003 World Championships. I was crowned World Champion. The following year, I went on to win a silver medal at the 2004 Olympic Games in Athens.

Qualifying for my third Olympic Games in Beijing was extremely challenging. Two weeks before the World Championships, I had a horrible crash in training.

I lost my air sense on one of my manoeuvres, and came crashing down with my knees tucked underneath me. I was in pain, but the only severe damage was to my knee: I had torn the meniscus in my right knee — a knee that I had already had reconstructive surgery on.

Two weeks before the Olympic qualifier, I was on crutches unable to walk. My team doctor told me I would need surgery, but I asked if there was a chance that I could still compete. She left the decision up to me, so I started aggressive physiotherapy and started to train — now just four days before the competition. I believed in myself, I believed I could perform.And I did. I placed fifth, and earned a spot for Canada in Beijing.

After those championships, I had the surgery to fix my knee.

I had two goals in mind: to be able to dance at my wedding a month later and to be ready for the Olympics in Beijing. Six months before the Olympic Games, I resumed my training. And when I arrived in Beijing, I felt ready and confident that I could make it onto the podium.

I performed a great routine, winning my third consecutive Olympic medal, a silver, for Canada. This experience has taught me that anything is possible. It is a new year, so dream big.

 

Junos and jazz hands

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Sophie Milman, celebrated jazz vocalist and Juno award winner, met lawyer Casey Chisick (now her husband) at a concert — her own, in fact.

Sophie tells their story:

How they met

We met at one of my earliest shows. The piano player I was working with at the time — Ron Davis — was a mutual friend, and he brought Casey to the club where I was playing.

However, I had no idea it was a setup! All I saw was a guy in a suit (he came straight from work), who looked quite established and set in life. I was just coming into my own — singing, going to school, not interested in dating anyone seriously. Nevertheless, he called a little while later, and I found him to be charming,attentive and interesting.

I was intrigued.

The first date

Our first official date was three years ago. Because we had been friends for so long, it wasn’t typical.

What happened?

Casey had made a reservation for us at Jamie Kennedy Wine Bar. When I got into his car, he had Stevie Wonder playing on the stereo, and I was immediately impressed. (Stevie’s my favourite). And Casey was playing tunes I had never even heard of. There was an immediate connection.

The courtship

We arrived at the restaurant to discover that some of Casey’s intoxicated clients were also there. A  c o m e d y  o f  e r r o r s  a n d embarrassment ensued, with some of the crowd really getting in the way of our hang. I was OK with it all because (a) it was amusing and (b) I was still convinced that any relationship with Casey was bound to be too serious for me.

But he was mortified. He later admitted to me that he was afraid that I would never agree to see him again. It’s funny how life works out.

The courtship

From the start, we were connected through music: Motown, Broadway and of course jazz. And Casey isn’t just a mere passive fan — he is a fantastic musician and arranger.

The chemistry between us was undeniable, but I was still hesitant. In January, Casey decided to put an end to our limbo status. The grand gesture: he sent me 12-dozen roses! My family and I were on our way out the door to see the Toronto symphony when the flowers arrived.

We only had two skinny vases at home, so we were scrambling to find vessels to house 144 roses.… It was quite funny and, of course, romantic.

The proposal

Casey totally surprised me! He proposed at the end of 2008, two days after I finished recording my third album, Take Love Easy. We were out for a nice dinner to celebrate the completion of the record and had plans to see friends afterwards. On the way, Casey said that he had to drop by the house for a few minutes, claiming that he had forgotten something.

I walked into the house and it was transformed!

There were red roses everywhere (in fact there were 12 dozen, a throwback to when we first started dating) and countless tea lights.

The entire main floor was just shimmering. I didn’t clue in — thinking that this was still part of the record completion party.

When he got down on one knee and pulled out the ring,I was flabbergasted.We had taken dozens of trips together, where he could have popped the question, but he chose the right setting for me: in Toronto, at home, where we could celebrate with my family.… It all felt so surreal and wonderful.

The wedding

The wedding was a reasonable size: there were about 150 people. Some of my family from Russia and Israel also flew out, which was amazing.

Music was the most important part of the whole thing: we walked down the isle to Stevie Wonder songs (played by my long-time collaborators and friends Paul Shrofel, Kieran Overs and Guido Basso), and the official band was Soul Stew, who had our guests dancing till 2 a.m.! We couldn’t have hoped for a better, groovier, funkier band.

Casey also serenaded me at the end of his speech, singing “How Sweet It Is (To Be Loved By You).” I was surprised and blown away! The rabbi who married us is one of our closest friends, which lent the ceremony even more significance.

The whole experience was elegant, warm and fantastic.